People get stuck because they label fear as intuition, or intuition as fear.
You do not need mystical language to separate them. You need observable signals and tests.

If you want to apply these tests to a real decision and leave with clear next steps, book a session.

Clear definition (so you stop guessing)

Fear is a threat response. It pushes you toward control, avoidance, or reassurance-seeking.

Intuition is pattern recognition. It is the “summary” your brain produces based on experience and signals you might not be consciously tracking.

Real-life examples (how people mislabel it)

• Dating: You say “my intuition says they’re wrong,” but the actual signal is fear of rejection after getting attached.
• Job: You say “my intuition says I’ll fail,” but the actual issue is you have not built the skills yet and you are catastrophizing.
• Relationship: You say “it’s just anxiety,” but the consistent pattern is disrespect and your body is responding to it.
• Moving: You say “intuition says don’t go,” but you have not visited and you’re avoiding logistics and change.

8 signals it’s fear (not intuition)

• You need certainty. You delay action until you feel “100% sure.”
• Your mind escalates. Small risks become “ruin my life.”
• You seek reassurance. You ask many people the same question.
• You avoid discomfort. The “intuition” conveniently protects comfort.
• You obsess over image. “How will I look?” dominates.
• You cycle fast. Strong feelings spike and crash based on mood or sleep.
• You freeze. You cannot take a simple first step.
• You bargain. You try to get the benefit without paying any cost.

8 signals it’s intuition (not wishful thinking)

• It stays consistent. The same conclusion returns over time.
• It is specific. One clear sentence, not a fog of feelings.
• It can be inconvenient. It does not protect your image.
• It reduces internal conflict. You feel less split when you admit it.
• It points to behavior. “I need to leave” or “I need to set a boundary.”
• It does not require perfection. You can act without guarantees.
• It aligns with evidence. There are real patterns, not just vibes.
• It becomes clearer when calm. When you regulate, the signal remains.

The 3 tests to separate fear vs intuition

Test 1: The calm test (regulate first)

Before you interpret anything, reduce stress first. When your system is stressed, your thinking becomes more extreme and less accurate.

• Exhale longer than inhale for 60 seconds.
• Drink water and eat something if you haven’t.
• Sleep if you are sleep-deprived.

Then ask: “When I’m calmer, does the conclusion stay the same?”

Test 2: The cost test (name the cost you avoid)

Ask: “What cost am I avoiding by calling this ‘intuition’?”

Example: “If I admit I should leave, I have to disappoint someone.” If that is the cost, and the signal stays consistent, you are likely dealing with intuition.

Test 3: The evidence test (what are the actual patterns?)

Write 3 concrete facts. Not interpretations.

• “They canceled 6 times in 2 months.”
• “They insult me when stressed.”
• “I feel relieved when I imagine leaving.”

FAQ

Can fear and intuition both be present?

Yes. Fear can be loud, intuition can be quiet. The goal is to identify which one is driving the decision.

What if I feel nothing?

Then use evidence, costs, and next steps. Emotional numbness often lifts after you stop performing and state the truth clearly.

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