Your pros and cons list is lying to you
It isn't helping you decide. It's helping you avoid deciding — and you can usually tell by how many times you've rewritten it.
Stop looping.
Make the call.
You've been going back and forth on the same decision for weeks. Maybe months. You've asked everyone you trust, read everything there is to read, and you still haven't decided.
One session. You leave with the decision made and the first move already scheduled.
60–90 minutes · audio only, no camera · written summary afterwards · or entirely over text
If one of these has been living in your head
- Should I quit my job?
- Should I break up?
- Should I move?
- Should I start the business?
- Should I go back to school?
- Should I have a kid?
- Should I shut it down?
- Should I say the thing?
You already know more than enough to decide. That's what makes it unbearable — the information isn't the problem, and more of it won't help. What's missing is someone who'll sit with you until you say it out loud, and won't let you leave the room hedging.
What this is, and what it isn't
It is
One decision, worked until it's made. Direct questions you've been avoiding. Someone naming the gap between what you say you want and how you actually live. A written summary, so you can't quietly rewrite history at 3am.
It isn't
Therapy. Life coaching. A twelve-week programme. Someone being warm at you. If you want to be comforted and left exactly where you are, there are gentler places — and I'll tell you so.
I'd rather you feel slightly called out and finally clear than perfectly comforted and still stuck.
The only promise that matters
You leave decided, or you don't pay.
If the session ends and the decision still isn't made, I refund it. No form, no argument.
I'm early enough that I don't have a wall of testimonials to hand you, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise. So I'll carry the risk instead of asking you to.
How a session goes
Six moves, ninety minutes
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Dump it out
Everything in your head, unfiltered. All the options, all the voices, every version you've rehearsed. I'm listening for how long you've been circling and what you're actually afraid of.
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Strip the story
We sort it into four piles: facts, fears, other people's voices, and story you've been telling yourself. Most of what's been keeping you up isn't in the facts pile.
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Find the non-negotiables
Not aspirational values — lived ones. Three to five things you can't trade away. Usually one option quietly violates one of them, and that's the elimination.
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The Normal Tuesday Test
Two years out, you chose Option A. Not a highlight, not a crisis — an ordinary Tuesday. Where do you wake up. What's 2pm like. Who's at dinner. Then again for Option B. The fantasy dies here.
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Decide
Direct ask, no softening. "Leaning" isn't deciding. Then silence, until you answer it.
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Lock it in
Three to five concrete moves that make it hard to reverse, with one of them happening inside 48 hours. The longer the gap between deciding and doing, the more the doubt moves back in.
Not ready to book
Try the Normal Tuesday Test yourself
The most useful piece of the session, stripped down and free. Eight questions about an ordinary day two years from now, once for each option you're weighing. Most people know their answer by question six and spend a while not liking it.
Writing
From the blog
You don't need more information
If you've been "doing research" for four months, information isn't the bottleneck. Something else is, and it has a name.
Asking ten people isn't research
It's outsourcing your life. And none of them said what you wanted to hear, because what you wanted wasn't advice.
One short email. One decision made easier.
No newsletter throat-clearing, no "hey friend." Sent only when there's something worth opening.
You've spent longer thinking about this
than the session would take.
Decide, or it's free.