Your pros and cons list is lying to you
It isn't helping you decide. It's helping you avoid deciding — and you can usually tell by how many times you've rewritten it.
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Writing
On decisions, loops, and the specific ways people avoid making them. No listicles, no "10 hacks," no pretending this is simple.
You don't need more information
If you've been "doing research" for four months, information isn't the bottleneck. Something else is, and it has a name.
Asking ten people isn't research
It's outsourcing your life. And none of them said what you wanted to hear, because what you wanted wasn't advice — it was to feel understood.
"I know what to do, I just can't do it"
The gap between knowing and doing isn't laziness, and treating it as laziness is why you've been stuck in it for a year.
Should I quit my job? The wrong question, and the right one
Almost nobody is actually deciding whether to quit. They're deciding whether they're allowed to want to.
More time won't help
Perfectionism isn't high standards. It's hiding, wearing a very respectable coat.
New writing, when there is some
One short email. One prompt that makes one decision easier. Sent only when there's something worth opening.